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Bunker Family: ALWAYS have a power of attorney healthcare / advanced medical directive in place AND have it put into record with your doctor and local hospitals. [I say plural for the US folks as we don't have one full EMR system.] Also make sure the people you list to make decisions for you when you can't have copies as well. If a hospital has your directive on file then it would take extreme circumstances for them to have to go against it.

Then make sure you tell other people than the ones you gave power to what your wishes are so there are more people to back you and those helping you in those situations. There are ways to even have in your documents directives about if you do not want certain people around or to have any decision making input regardless of who they are - e.g. mother, ex-spouse, estranged child, etc.

If you don't want to/can't/feel comfortable using an attorney or an online legal documents service there are other options. There are legal templates online and groups that provide templates (note that laws differ between regions/states/provinces so there may be small issues but usually good enough) including Aging with Dignity's easy Five Wishes advanced care planning program - that you can use even if you aren't aging - which you can find here to help you through lots of end of life decision/planning matters: https://agingwithdignity.org/five-wishes/ [I am not endorsing their whole group/system, especially as they have a religious (Catholic) background, but I have had friends say that they have used this with their hesitant loved ones and it helped things go super smoothly so I take that as a win.]

Lastly, just to have SOMETHING for even a will you can grab a piece of paper and write (or type and print) something very simple. For example:

I, [your full name], being of sound mind and body do declare that I wish all of my property to go to [their full name] upon my death.

[your full name]

[your HANDWRITTEN signature]

[date]

Then tell others about it and that you wished x, y, and z property to go to a, b, and c. If you can, make copies and ensure that they go to key people including whomever will handle your estate when you pass. Bonus points if you get a witness to name, date, and sign your basic will and/or get it notarized with said witness(es) there.

If you don't have all this already consider doing it, even if you're young (things happen), as it can save a lot of heartache and make things easier for those who love you to deal with things without you there. And now back to your regularly scheduled Scientology shenanigans...

Val Ross's avatar

I really don’t understand how Priscilla could order the machines shut off against Lisa’s will. Priscilla didn’t have medical POA. If Brigitte is correct, Lisa had taken the powers away from her. Did the hospital violate the Advanced Medical Directive signed by Lisa? Were they that star struck? It is sad to see this played out in the public forum. I wonder how much Scientology has to do with Riley and Priscilla’s joint statement.

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